The Trap of the Absent Provider

ByJowi Witt

I’m struggling.
My challenge is that I love my family and my business.

I’m a passionate guy… I’m either all in or all out.

I wish to honor God with serving my family, and I wish to honor God with serving my clients.
There seems to be a challenge, though.

I don’t serve my family by being fully present for them.​
(On the other side)
​I serve my clients best when I’m fully present with them.

I know there’s a lot of chatter on the internet about the lifestyle business and passive income.
This would be great for my family—I could be all there for them.

I have tried to build the lifestyle business with passive income.
I’ve failed at all the attempts.
Trust me, I tried.

When I talk to my clients, they all appreciate that I take my time and that I’m present with them.

It seems to be the situation that I’m either a Present Dad or a Present Entrepreneur.
Which seemed to be the issue: I end up being an Absent Provider.

Now I’m set to figure out how to solve this.

I’m discovering good principles to become a Present Provider.

This is also the ambition I have for the future.

I believe a first step is to stop believing the work/life balance.
I can’t believe in the work/life integration either.

I am building a Digital Family Business.

With the first principle: Block your time of Presence.​
When is it client time, and when is it family time?

Make sure to communicate this clearly.

It’s so helpful to set these blocks.
This is one of the lessons I’ve learned as I’m working my way to become a Present Provider.

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